Mom gets text asking if she knows her daughter is dating a ‘black boy,’ has a perfect response


Most parents just want the best for their child, and when it comes to their love life, the same applies. Parents just want their child to date someone who’s kind and treats them well.  That doesn’t mean that they’re always on board right away when they’re confronted with their child’s significant other. 

Heather Boyer, who’s a mother, recently received a text regarding someone that her daughter’s dating. She confessed that she didn’t know how to respond initially after reading, but after she thought about it she decided to share her touching response with Love What Matters. Although she didn’t end up sending the message to the original person who texted her, the response still makes you think nonetheless. Here is her answer:

“Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text …’ I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?’ It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that ‘may not know’. Yes in fact I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does define who is he is how he treats my daughter. I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect. I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat… not to a club or partying on the weekends. I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have. He doesn’t hit her, cuss [at] her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not. So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does.”

Heather is absolutely right. No one should ever be defined by their appearance or color of their skin. Instead, we should look to what kind of person they are on the inside, if they are kind and treat others with respect. When looking for a life partner, the most important consideration should be what kind of person they are. To quote Sirius Black from the “Harry Potter” series, “If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.” That should be the only thing that matters, their character as a person.

And nowadays it does seem like a chore to find a kind person that treats you well. So it is definitely amazing that Heather’s daughter has found someone who treats her well like she deserves to be treated.

The couple look very happy together, and at the end of the day, that is all that matters, not other people’s opinions. Check out the beautiful photo of the happy couple below.

Source: LoveWhatMatters


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