Meet Jareth Nebula, 33, who officially identifies as a genderless alien. They are now working to raise awareness for those who feel they’re otherworldly.
Nebula’s journey began when they were 29 years old and were born female, but then made the transition to male. They changed their name to Jareth, an inspiration that came from David Bowie’s character in the film Labyrinth, by Guillermo del Toro.
However, their self-discovery wasn’t complete as the Washington receptionist feels that they don’t fit into any gender construct, and have come to realize that they don’t really feel human much at all. So instead, Nebula describes themselves as an “otherworldly” alien void of gender.
“After coming out as transgender and believing I had finally found myself, I realized I was wrong,” Nebula explained. “I wasn’t male or female, or even human. I don’t think or feel like humans. I can’t really explain it to others – I’m simply otherworldly. I didn’t feel comfortable as either gender or even anything in between. I know I’m stuck in a human form and that’s how I’m perceived by others – but to me, I’m an alien with no gender.”
Jareth hasn’t felt like they belonged on Earth for quite a while. It was a feeling that haunted them for quite some time following an Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS) diagnosis. For those unaware of the condition, EDS affects the skin and joint connection tissue, and as a result of the illness, Jareth had an increased range of mobility, as well as extra stretchy skin.
“The condition [EDS] means I can pop my joints out on purpose, which was a fun party trick when I was a kid,” Jareth explained.
Dubbed Mr. Elastic by doctors, Jareth actually suffers from chronic pain. “I get to a chiropractor once every two weeks and see a physical therapist once a week, as well as smoking medicinal marijuana for the pain – but there is currently no cure for EDS,” they said.
Jareth initially described themself as a “hyper-feminine female” and even modeled in their teens, but by their late 20s, Jareth made the decision to transition to male, and began hormone treatments immediately, and they even changed their sense of style toward the more masculine and getting top surgery to remove their breasts.
But Jareth soon found they were just as uncomfortable living as a man as they were a woman, saying, “I thought being a trans man would solve all of my issues and inner battles with finding out who I was, but I wasn’t as happy as I expected to be. I felt like I was trying to fit into someone else’s box. I didn’t want to be constrained – that’s when I discovered what agender was.”
That’s when Jareth began to realize that they consider themself to be neither male nor female and – while they are happy to be referred to using male pronouns – they feel that living as an alien is much more suited to how they feel inside.
“I’d always been obsessed with aliens, too, and what it means to be extraterrestrial, so the idea of being an agender alien fit perfectly as an identity for me,” Jareth explained before revealing all the body modifications they have undergone in order to complete themselves as a genderless alien. “To feel less human, I have a huge circuit board tattooed on my face – which makes me feel more android and disconnected from humanity. I don’t have nipples, as I had them removed during my top trans surgery. I shave off my eyebrows and have lip, septum and nose bridge piercings.”
Unfortunately for Jareth, not everyone has been supportive of their transition. Jareth explained that their family understood and welcomed their transition from male to female, but they were much less supportive of their alien identity.
“My family still see me as a trans man, because they don’t understand what agender or alien really means. I have online friends who support me, but offline is harder. Not everyone understands – but that’s okay. I don’t expect them to get it, I only want acceptance.”
Jareth added, “People treat me like a freak because I’m an alien, but it’s a completely valid thing to call yourself.” They revealed they have suffered online abuse due to their appearance.
Regardless, they are now happy with how they look, however, and will brush off any negativity from others, stating, “I’m happy with who I am and will continue to become more alien-like every day.”