The unspoken rules of public transportation dictate that if an elderly person, pregnant person, or disabled person gets on, you should give them your seat – it’s the polite thing to do.
But I have a question for the guys reading, do you give up your seat on crowded transportation if a regular woman gets on?
45-year-old Nirpal Dhaliwal is someone who believes that men shouldn’t give up their seat for a member of the opposite sex because a woman has never given up her seat for him.
To make his point even clearer, Nirpal appeared on ITV’s “Good Morning Britain” show to discuss the transportation fares being the same for men and women.
Nirpal said, “Firstly, if a woman is able-bodied, why should I? Guys pay for the train ticket as much as women do, they have a long day at work, they’re knackered and if she’s physically able why should I give up my seat for her? If she’s pregnant, she’s got a health problem or physical problem – yeah.”
The debate about public transport started after Caroline Rothstein, an American feminist writer, told Twitter that she refused to let a man help her with her luggage on an airplane.
Saying, “No thank you, I got it,” to the middle-aged white man on the airplane who offered—and began—to take my suitcase out of the overhead compartment for me was a quickly calculated act of resistance.— Caroline Rothstein (@cerothstein) July 31, 2019
Nirpal stated, “There was a Twitter storm yesterday where a woman tweeted about some guy trying to help her with her luggage, getting it out of the compartment in the plane. She regarded him as an oppressor. Guys are getting their head bitten off, or certainly getting an earful just for helping. That’s confusing for guys.”
He further went on to say that a woman has never given up her seat for him, “It’s a one way street though. A woman’s never given up her seat for me, that’s even when I’ve had a football injury and I’ve been limping down the carriage. I’ve never had a woman open a door for me, pull out a chair for me – nothing.”
Feminist Noreen Khan said in response, “I would never be offended if a man was chivalrous. For example, if he decides to hold the door open or says ‘would you like help with your luggage?’ I would say ‘yes please’. Even if I haven’t asked for it I still wouldn’t be offended. Us women, we would do the same as well for men. If he wants to hold the door open, I’ll happily hold the door open too.”
Noreen elaborated, “Whenever I go on a tube or train, I never expect a guy to give up a chair for me – why should he? Unless a woman’s pregnant I think or as you said with health issues, I would never expect that. It’s those small gestures like if you go on a date and the guy holds…”
Nirpal then interrupted her to reply, “Why can’t we have small gestures too?”
As a feminist myself, I completely agree with Noreen, there is absolutely no expectation or desire for a man to give up his seat for me – although a little less manspreading would be much appreciated.