When you are expecting a baby, it is a joyous time but it is also a stressful time.
You need to consider everything involved and stay up-to-date with your checkups and tests. Baby items need to be purchased, the nursery needs to be set up properly and last, but not least, you need to choose a name.
Some people have already picked out a name years before they ever get pregnant but other parents wait until they are actually pregnant to choose the name. In either case, it’s a decision that is going to follow the child for the rest of their life. Understandably, some future parents can get upset when their choice is criticized.
One mom-to-be was convinced that she had chosen a unique name for her unborn daughter. That is, of course, until a friend of hers said that ‘Aurora’ is not actually all that rare. She ended up having her feelings hurt.
“My friend is expecting her first baby later this year. As I’m massively interested in baby names I asked her if she had anything in mind,” the friend said. “She said she wanted something unique and is planning on using Aurora.”
She continued, “I said that Aurora is a gorgeous name, but has risen hugely in popularity over the last few years and is now in the top hundred.”
When she realized that she may have hit a nerve she decided to back down and change the conversation. In the back of her mind, however, she still wondered if she was ‘unreasonable’ for being open and honest with her friend when it came to the baby name.
“I wouldn’t have said anything bad about the name itself, but l didn’t want her to regret her choice later, because she didn’t know about the sudden spike in popularity,” the friend wrote after asking those in the forum if she “said the wrong thing.”
“Since she specifically said she’d chosen it because of its uniqueness, I don’t think it was massively unreasonable of you to mention it,” one user wrote in support of the friend.
“I actually think more people should be honest with friend’s and family about baby names,” read one comment. “Rather than smiling and nodding in agreement that ‘D’artagnan-Odious Alfie Oliver Smith’ sounds like a great name.”
There were also many people who sided with the future mother, saying that Aurora was not as popular as she said.
“It’s still pretty uncommon even if in top 100,” wrote one user. “Names are much more diverse these days and there is a much wider spread. You said the wrong thing and should probably apologize.”
“Yes you upset her when talking baby names you smile nod and make reassuring noises no actual opinions,” wrote another. “Btw wasn’t Aurora sleeping beauty?”
“Unless someone is asking for point blank honest opinions than I think it’s better if you keep your mouth zipped,” quipped one user.
Right or wrong, the debate continues as to whether you should or should not point out that a supposedly unique baby name is actually popular. As far as being correct, she was, because it was the six most popular name in 2018 on Nameberry.